When Grief is Anger, not Tears

Grief is not really an emotion—for most people, it’s a complicated package of emotions, some ra-tional, others less so. We think of grief as being synonymous with sadness… and thus think of tears as the most appropriate response. Sadness is definitely part of the grief package, but it’s far from the whole deal. Some people…

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Why Most People Don’t Understand Grief

One of the most common complaints from people who have lost a loved one is that others in their life don’t get it. Friends and family have a tendency to make comments that range from awkward to downright cruel, and just don’t seem to understand either the emotional responses to the death of a close…

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Who Am I Now?

Those who haven’t lost someone close to them might find it melodramatic when you say you feel like a part of you died with your loved one—but it’s not an exaggeration. When a loved one dies, we lose part of our identity, as a husband or wife, as a son or daughter or as a…

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Young Widowhood—Children

Many deaths come with a cascade of losses—the loss of hopes and dreams, the loss of specific traditions, the loss of your relationship with specific family members. When your spouse dies young, one of the biggest losses relates to children. If you already have children, you’re grieving not just the loss of your spouse but…

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Young Widowhood—Dating and Sex

Most young widows eventually feel ready to date and perhaps even marry again, but most find that everything related to dating and sex is more complicated as a widow than it was as a younger single person. In the dating world people talk about baggage—and while your late spouse isn’t a suitcase, most widows do…

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Grieving The Lives We Had Before COVID-19

Grief is not limited to the death of someone we loved or cared for. Grief can show up in our lives for other things lost like a job, financial security, and an overall way of life. Giving ourselves permission to label the life we had pre-Coronavirus means we then allow ourselves to grieve; to properly…

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Young Widows: Preserving Memories

When you’re faced with living another 30, 40 or 50 years without the person you assumed would be by your side for decades, it’s common to worry about memories fading and/or losing your connection to your late spouse. This fear is often especially acute in young widows who have children—you feel a responsibility to keep…

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5 Ways to Help Someone Who’s Grieving

Death, and the grief that follows the death of a loved one, makes many people in our culture uncomfortable. It’s something that parents often try to shield children from, and that many people feel pressured to hide. Yet pretending grief doesn’t exist isn’t the healthiest way to start the road to recovery—and it’s not helpful…

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Young Widows: Reimagining Life

Our relationships with our spouses are largely about sharing a vision for the future and working together to make those dreams a reality. If you’re a young widow, your spouse’s death is so much more than losing the person you love—it’s also a loss of the future you were building together. These shattered dreams are…

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